Getting Started with Rope
- Basics for Any Play
- Navigating the Rope Community
- Additional Resources for Bottoms
Basics for Any Play
Before getting into how to actually tie or be tied, you should spend some time learning about how to establish your boundaries, identify safe play partners and environments, negotiate for the play that you want, and so forth. The Topping Book and Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy are good introductory resources on BDSM play and relationships.
Advice for negotiating rope play in particular can be found at Negotiation and Consent.
Navigating the Rope Community
I've summarized some advice regarding the most common pitfalls while navigating the rope community in this one-page handout, which may also be freely printed and distributed at events.
Additional Resources for Bottoms
While I encourage bottoms to learn as much about tying as they can, and in particular to view all the various safety information on this site, I don't currently have a lot of content posted specifically about rope bottoming skills. Eventually I hope to expand Crash Restraint to include a true educational program for rope bottoms, but in the meantime, I suggest you check out the following excellent rope bottoming educators:
- Evie Vane has written the must-read Little Guide to Getting Tied Up, and also has a YouTube channel.
- Tifereth has some videos available on Kink University of her more advanced rope bottoming classes.
I highly recommend using the Rope Bottoms’ Share Group to check up on people before letting them tie you up. There are real predators out there, some of whom even move from city to city as they get banned in various local communities. While it's no silver bullet, checking up on potential partners both in the group, and by asking other local bottoms, can greatly reduce the risks.