Building a Rope Kit

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Diameter

Almost any size rope can be used for bondage with enough creativity and care; however for the techniques covered in the Core Rope Curriculum, you generally want a diameter between 3/16" and 3/8" (5-8mm). The right diameter depends on the material of your rope and your style of tying more than on the size of your bottom, although wider rope can sometimes be more convenient for tying larger bodies. A good starting point for beginners is almost always 1/4" (6mm), and that's the most popular diameter in general.

Construction

Some ropes have an outer braided sheath around a core of straight fiber; most rope made for climbing is of this type of construction (sometimes called "kernmantle"). Clothesline and other cheap hardware-store ropes frequently also have a core, sometimes of a different material than the sheath. In general, any rope with a core is bad for bondage; it is difficult to handle and produces bulky knots.

Rope for bondage should be either twisted (most commonly with 3, but sometimes 4, strands), or a solid braid with no core.

Color

When you are first starting out, it is best to avoid black rope or other very dark colors; it is harder to see what is going on with dark rope, both for you and for your teacher if you are taking classes.

Length

It's sometimes joked that bondage ropes come in only two sizes-- too long, and too short. I recommend keeping some of each handy.

The main consideration in choosing the length of your ropes is how long a rope you can comfortably handle without it becoming unwieldy when you're pulling it through. This depends mostly on your arm span, and in part on your style of tying. I'm 5'9" and find anything longer than 27' to start becoming awkward for me.

My recommendation is to compose your kit primarily of the longest length that is comfortable for you to work with, and then add in a few shorter ones for when you just need a bit of extra to finish up a tie. The most common lengths offered by suppliers of finished bondage rope are 25', 8m (26'), and 30'. My approach to building a kit from retail bondage rope is to buy 10 of the length they offer closest to my ideal (usually 8m), take one of them and cut it in half, and another cut about 1/4 way down. That gives me a kit of 8x full length, 1x 3/4 length, 2x 1/2 length, and 1x 1/4 length. For a smaller kit, just decrease the number of full-length ropes.

When you are just starting out, or if you are doing mostly bedroom bondage, a smaller kit with a higher proportion of short ropes may be more convenient; I find in the bedroom I rarely use more than 5 ropes, and use each of full, 3/4, and 1/2 length ropes with about equal frequency.

Rope Ends

Cutting a couple of ropes to make yourself shorter lengths is a good opportunity to test that your safety cutters work well on the rope you're using. You'll need to learn a method for finishing the rope ends, to keep them from unraveling. I recommend some type of whipping. I usually order rope with unfinished ends or simple overhand end knots, and whip all my ropes with the same twine, which makes them easily recognizable as mine. Some people like to color-code their whippings to indicate the length of the rope.

Avoid having anything hard or sharp (such as metal, or melted plastic) at the ends of your rope; if you tie enough, eventually you are going to whip someone in the eye with a rope end (quite possibly yourself). Being hit in the eye with rope is always unpleasant, but you don't want rope ends that could actually cause injury to the eye.

Why do people keep knots in the ends of their rope?

In Japanese rope bondage, you'll most frequently see people use a simple knot in the end of their rope. This is a tradition that seems to derive from historical use of low-quality and/or loose-laid ropes where the tension would easily become uneven between strands. When that happens, you have to re-lay the rope by hand from one end to the other, and when you get to the end, you'll need to undo the knot to realign the strands. So a simple knot that can be undone and redone makes that convenient.

The downside, of course, is that knots in the end catch when they are pulled through, a constant nuisance and something that happens no matter how good you are at handling the rope; I've seen people with decades of professional experience have their flow broken by a stuck stopper knot.

Material

There is another article dedicated to rope materials. If you are just starting out and don't know what you like yet, I recommend looking for inexpensive but high-quality 3-strand cotton or nylon. I link to my favorite supplier for cotton rope here.

Stuff to Carry Other Than Rope

There's a variety of items other than rope that you may want to keep in your rope bag. Surely the most important is safety cutters, but beyond that here are some to consider:

The most common rope-kit first aid supply is ibuprofen, which is traditionally recommended to be taken immediately after a wide variety of the injuries most likely to occur in rope (nerve compression, pulled muscles, joint injuries) -- however the science is pretty mixed on whether that actually promotes healing or just makes people feel better, and you should always be careful that taking pain relievers doesn't encourage you to ignore pain that should be listened to. Similar story with cold packs, which should almost certainly not be used in case of nerve injury but might be helpful with joint injuries.

Having a sugary snack and water immediately available is always a good idea during play. Flashlights can be important in an emergency (although most cellphones can fill this need in a pinch). Simple first aid supplies for cuts and scrapes are good to have, although the risk of those isn't really particular to rope. Some tops like to have a hand balm with them; tying a lot can be murder on your fingers.

If you've got space in your bag, a thin cloth to lay over the floor where you'll tie is nice to have if in a venue that doesn't provide clean mats. Alternately, a blanket serves the same purpose as well as being a great aftercare item.

When tying someone who may need emergency medication (e.g. inhaler, epipen), always make sure they've got it with them and you know where it is and how and when to help them use it. For a while I dated someone allergic to bees and we tied outside a fair amount, so I kept her spare epipen in my rope bag.

Got other stuff you like to carry when playing with rope? Let us know in the comments.

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    Undeniablyme | Feb 16th, 2016 4:39am PST #

    Highly informative

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      Zane071 | Jun 21st, 2016 5:29am PDT #

      Nice

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        MrKyp | Dec 19th, 2016 5:27am PST #

        Well composed and written. Seems to be sound recommendations. Thank you.

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          iamJayBK | Feb 23rd, 2017 3:20pm PST #

          Good to know that even as a beginner I've made fair choices in rope and how dispensed.

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            Happytei | Jul 20th, 2017 10:00pm PDT #

            Good to know

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              nike0666 | Aug 4th, 2017 8:58am PDT #

              Great good to review and learne a couple new things

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                DrumDaddy10 | Aug 18th, 2017 7:26pm PDT #

                This is awesome thanks

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                  tnayfie71 | Apr 1st, 2018 9:03am PDT #

                  Thank you for the information

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                    jamaica85 | Apr 7th, 2018 8:41pm PDT #

                    Thanks for the info. As a shorter man (5'3") this really comes in handy when choosing rope lengths. I think I'll stick to 25' longs and 12' shorts from now on.

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                      cerceaux | May 15th, 2018 3:02am PDT #

                      This website it GREAT! :D

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                        BubbleGun21 | Aug 22nd, 2018 4:37am PDT #

                        I absolutely LOVE the idea of cutting 2 of the ropes. It offers several things but most importantly gets new riggers (or old?) over the problem of "Oh, no! I'd NEVER cut MY rope! It's far too...." Yadda-yadda. If your bottom is in distress & you need to cut, then YOU CUT!

                        Taking shears to the rope before you even get started is WONDERFUL! It gives you the opportunity to get over that terrible psychological hump, it gives you ACTUAL practice using YOUR shears on YOUR rope. And, the happy bonus is you get the "oddments" sizes that will help expand your kit. Can't tell you how handy my "get outta shit" rope has been! That would be the 1/4 size that Topologist talks about ;-)

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                          goldenwhite | Nov 4th, 2018 7:54am PST #

                          very cool

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                            StringsInside | Dec 4th, 2018 6:16pm PST #

                            Can you add a bit of what else you usually have in your rope kit? Like for safety and first aid. I don't really know what I should bring for that kind of stuff.

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                              Topologist | Dec 4th, 2018 6:57pm PST #

                              Great question! Just added a section on that topic.

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